Sometimes, we’ve been so static for so long that we lie to ourselves that things have always been this way as an excuse not to try to change them. Complacency is the enemy of growth.
“This is just the way I am” and “This is how I/things are meant to be” might be two of the most dangerous statements that any person can tell themselves. A person will want change for months, years, even decades, but tell themselves instead that change is impossible, in order to bear the weight of admitting that they are too scared to try or that they don’t know where to start. But the truth is, when something is truly “meant to be” or completely outside of our control, living with it usually doesn’t bring feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, or regret. In fact, it’s usually the living with something that we know deep down is not “meant to be” that can be most painful of all.
The pain of living with something that you can change but won’t is a pain that can waste years of your precious life, years that cannot be bought back at any price. The truth is, no one is “meant to be” unhappy and dissatisfied. If the only thing standing between you and the life you want is you, then get out of your own way.