Being rejected is an opportunity to re-assess the situation from a new perspective, re-analyze the character and behaviours of others, improve yourself, raise your standards, and move more efficiently going forward. That temporary feeling of inadequacy is a small price to pay.
Nobody likes to be rejected. Rejection feels like a judgement on one’s character, and that’s because that’s almost always exactly what it is. The person doing the rejecting is essentially telling the other person “I don’t want you,” which is then perceived as “You are lacking in some way.” Although this may be the truth of the person rejecting you, it doesn’t have to be your truth. A close friend of mine always says that “You can be the ripest, juiciest, most beautiful peach, and that still won’t mean anything to someone who hates peaches.” Rejections and breakups are a great time to do some inner work and perhaps grow in areas where you feel discontent. But it’s also important to remember that, even at your very best, you will not be for everybody, nor should you strive to be. Everybody isn’t for you, right? Keep in mind that, by rejecting you, someone who can’t or won’t see your worth is freeing up your time and giving you the space for those who can and will treasure you to enter into your life. Rejection is another person having the courage to let you go completely. Accepting that means having the courage to leave where you aren’t even being tolerated, and to go where you will be cherished.
