It’s imperative to your healing that you learn to validate yourself. Your appearance, your intelligence, your worth, etc. The compliments you seek from others may never come; the desire for them may even be used to manipulate you. Take back your power. Be your own cheerleader.
External validation isn’t without merit; our first impressions of who we are and what we are capable of are molded by our caregivers. It’s often said that the way a parent speaks to a child becomes the way that that child grows to speak to themselves, their inner voice. However, if we were raised in environments where we were put down, belittled, or told that we were “bad,” “ugly,” or “dumb,” that record might still be playing on a loop in our heads, affecting many of or relationships, interactions, and even whether or not we pursue our dreams.
As an adult, it’s crucial to learn this truth: You are not responsible for how your parents treated you, but you are responsible for how you treat you. You can give yourself a new outlook by creating new scripts in your mind, feeding and nurturing your spirit with affirmations, and becoming your own greatest supporter. Others aren’t capable of telling you what you can do. It’s up to you to show them just how much you’re capable of! Don’t wait to be called “great;” let them see you shine!
